We live in precarious times, but don’t worry this isn’t true for everybody as it is just for a section of people who are entrusted with it. They are the ones who are bestowed with the responsibility of being the custodians of nurture & care, of pride & trust without compromising on proving their worth. ‘Worth’ what really is the definition of it, according to what I have witnessed, a man’s worth is proved if he is able to provide for his family & a woman’s if she is able to grow & nurture it. Going by the economics of things ‘worth helps in determining value’, but in the real world of beings, do we really assign value for what’s worth? Well not in my opinion & just to prove it to you, look around and observe — at how many places the nurturer who gives in time for her family, who gives up her dreams, her career, her expectations of how her life should be like is really valued for it?
She is more often than not taken for granted for all that she has done because technically it is her ‘duty’. For all you know she is not even given the amount of respect she deserves later in life as she has far done her duty of nurture & care and no one really needs it anymore. So what happens later in life is that the provider of the house gets all the importance, he is invariably the decision maker because he for all practical purposes is more aware of the world outside while she was involved with the house. The invisible baton in this relay of life is always held by the groom & not the bride, by the husband and not the wife.
Our dear girl here first seeks approvals from her parents because they hold the baton of her life. Once married, the baton is passed on from her parents to the new set of parents that have arrived. When the new parents can no more hold on the baton, it invariably gets passed to her husband because patriarchy gave him this right. And at the end of it all she is left with asking for approvals, seeking permissions, following rules & doing everything that’s right. Because after all she is a ‘girl’ right!